Mina Starsiak Hawk is reflecting on conflicts inside her household — together with along with her mother and Good Bones co-star, Karen E. Laine, and her brothers .

On the Aug. 28 episode of her podcast, Mina AF, which was recorded the week earlier than her son Jack’s fifth birthday on Aug. 9., she shared that his get together is often a household occasion. However her household is “difficult,” she stated, and she or he’d been going forwards and backwards over whom she needed to ask this 12 months.

“Will it have an effect on my youngsters?” requested Starsiak Hawk, who additionally has a daughter, 2-year-old Charlie, with husband Steve. “Will they even discover who’s right here and who’s not right here? There’s going to be a bunch of animals. That’s all they care about.”

 She added, “Am I being true to myself and my husband by setting applicable boundaries for sure individuals to be right here or not be right here?”

Mina then described the “present state of affairs.”

“My mother and I aren’t in an important place,” she stated. “My brother Tad and I aren’t in an important place. My brother William and I are in a type of like nonexistent place. It’s difficult with out even being difficult. We don’t actually interact a lot and the final engagement wasn’t tremendous optimistic, and that was perhaps a 12 months in the past.”

“All of us all the time coexist,” she continued. “We went on household trip collectively and everyone seems to be nice sufficient round one another. And is that the nice factor, the suitable factor, or is that every one simply being wildly dysfunctional?”

Mina stated the visitors she’d already invited to Jack’s get together have been her associates with youngsters, who see her youngsters repeatedly.

“Not solely do my mother and my two brothers not fall into that class of being concerned of their life regularly, we’re additionally not on good phrases,” she stated.

Mina famous that her relations possible really feel that there are legitimate causes they’re not as concerned in her youngsters’ lives, and she or he’s made it clear to her mom Karen that her grandchildren are by no means “off limits” to spend time with.

Her brother Tad is “in a special place in his life” since he doesn’t have youngsters. The children know him as “the uncle that’s at Thanksgiving at my dad’s home.” 

“All of us come collectively for the issues which are vital to my dad,” she stated. “So all of us go on household trip and type of take care of no matter bizarre awkwardness is going on on the time. And all of us act good and like regular grownup people, as a result of this is a vital factor for a handful of various individuals. I believe on the prime of that record is my dad.”

“Every time there’s an occasion, all of us put our large child pants on and faux to be good to one another and do the occasion, after which return to our corners of the universe and discuss s— about one another,” she stated. “And I simply don’t wish to try this. As a result of that doesn’t really feel real. It doesn’t really feel actual. And it’s simply not what I need my life to be.”

Mina additionally mulled whether or not to inform the relations concerning the get together if she selected to not invite them.

“Having to say ‘For this reason you’re not invited’ opens up a line of communication to debate that, and I actually don’t wish to try this,” she stated. “That sounds exhausting proper now. So once more, I fall again to ‘Do I simply invite everybody as a result of it’s the trail of least resistance?’ However it’s what we’ve all all the time executed and it hasn’t gotten us anyplace higher.”

Whereas she didn’t reveal what she finally determined, Mina concluded that it made sense to decide that will be uncomfortable, “as a result of it’s going to alter one thing.” 

“I do know if all of us hold doing the identical factor, it’s going to maintain being the identical,” she stated. “And I don’t assume any of us are pleased with it being the identical.”

An Aug. 12, Mina shared a candy carousel of images from Jack’s birthday on Instagram. The snaps confirmed the lovable 5-year-old blowing out candles on a cupcake and assembly numerous animals alongside the opposite youngsters who attended.

Earlier this month, Mina mirrored on one other large change in her life: the tip of Good Bones, which is at present in its eighth and last season on HGTV.

“It’s the tip of an period,” she stated on the Aug. 7 episode of Mina AF. “I imply, I needed to say goodbye to some individuals right this moment that I’ve spent my final virtually 10 years with.”

“One thing I’m tremendous, tremendous happy with, and actually grateful to the community for, is making a present for the final eight years that, for the massive majority of the time, has been tremendous consultant of who I’m, who the boys are, what we’re doing, and it was actually vital to me from the start to try this,” she added.

She famous, nevertheless, “The tip of something is simply laborious.”

Mina AF is obtainable to stream now.